My Summer Before College

 In my senior year of high school, I hung out regularly with four other guys. We were all a little nerdy and stuck to our friend group which was typical amongst all the less popular guys. However, all guys are the same when it comes down to being preoccupied with girls, sex, and of course our dicks.  

 
One Saturday we were hiking out in the hills, and it did not take long for the conversation to turn to girls and sex. We started to brag about how big our dicks were. From what I remember, a couple of the guys were exaggerating for sure. It turned into good-natured teasing and arguments.  

 
“Hey guys since we all think our dick is big, let’s compare them right now to see which one of us has the biggest dick,” I said. 

 

Everyone was down and willing to show their dicks to each other until I said, “Give me a second while I search for a good porn to play on my phone to make us get hard.”  

 

Everyone got quiet for a few seconds before the nervous laughter started. They were okay with showing their flaccid dicks but were very hesitant about having to get hard in front of each other.  

Cottaging: The History and Thrill of Public Play

Have you ever wondered where some of our most specific subculture terms come from? Today, we’re diving into the history of "cottaging"—a classic piece of British slang with deep roots in the history of gay cruising—and talking about why the thrill of public play still holds such a massive appeal for so many. 

What is Cottaging?

For those unfamiliar with the term, cottaging is British slang that refers to anonymous sexual activity between men in a public restroom, park pavilion, or similar public facility.

The origin of the word is actually quite literal. Historically, public toilet blocks in the UK were often built as standalone brick or stone structures designed to look like quaint, small cottages to help them blend into parks and urban spaces. Over time, the community adopted the name, and "cottaging" became an established term for seeking out discreet, anonymous connections in these spaces.

The History Behind the Cruise

Decades ago, before apps, modern bars, or legalization, cruising in public spaces wasn’t just about preferences—it was a vital way to find connection, community, and intimacy during eras when homosexual acts were heavily criminalized and heavily policed. It required a unique set of unspoken rules, signals, and absolute discretion.

Public Park Quickie